Healthy Relationships

How HBLU Can Help

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You Can Have A Healthy Relationship Whether You Are Married Or Single


“Healthy relationships are happy relationships.” Judith A. Swack, Ph.D.


What is marriage?


At its best, it is a lifetime together, a partnership with someone you like, respect, and love. You share resources and use your differences to complement each other by sharing your strengths. This creates a synergy that stimulates continuous growth and evolution.


In a healthy marriage you:


  • Take care of each other, and do what you can to make each other happy. In other words it makes you feel happy when the other person is happy
  • Are nice to each other. Knowing your partner’s sore spots, you are gentle with them in those areas and you encourage them to get help if they need it
  • Have regular sex, and are willing to do whatever you can to preserve that form of closeness. This includes dealing with the natural physical problems of aging and age-related health problems
  • Are each better together than you are apart

Whether you’re single or in a long-term, committed relationship or marriage HBLU ™ can help you create the healthy, happy partnership you want by:


  • Discovering what type of relationship you are ready for.
  • Helping you release yourself from unhealthy relationships or relationships that aren’t going anywhere.
  • Clearing dysfunctional family patterns so that you don’t unconsciously reproduce them in your current relationship.
  • Healing trauma from divorce, death, betrayal, abandonment, etc. so that you can start fresh.Clearing distorted ideas, assumptions, limiting beliefs, and negative feelings about men, women, gender roles, relationships, marriage, etc.
  • Helping you understand and appreciate each other’s Enneagram personality type so that you can complement each other.
  • Teaching you state of the art communication skills.
  • Helping you discover the surprisingly simple ways to make each other feel loved.

With HBLU ™ you work together to create a unique partnership that is ideal for both of you. We’ve helped people in their twenties, we’ve helped people in their seventies. Whether it’s your first or your fifth, HBLU ™ helps people get and stay happily married.

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Bless Everyone

By Judith A. Swack, Ph.D. • December 2, 2025
Copyright 2013, revised 2025 Judith A. Swack, Ph.D. At the recent ACEP conference (May 2013) I ran into Jane, a woman who had attended my presentation at the Energy Psychology conference the previous October. There I had demonstrated an energy transmission technique that I called “The Look” in which someone remembers a traumatic emotion, locates that feeling in his/her body, and I look at it. About 10 seconds later, the feeling dissolves. At the end of that session, I transmitted that ability to anyone who wished to receive it.
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Successful Treatment of Physical Problems Starts with Acceptance

By Judith A. Swack, Ph.D. • September 29, 2025
Copyright 2014 revised 2025 Judith A. Swack, Ph.D. Three years ago, John’s blood sugar levels started to rise. Although John’s father and several other relatives had diabetes, John refused to believe he might really have a problem. Although his doctor had encouraged him to modify his diet and lose weight, John continued to eat whatever he wanted, not exercise, and stay fat. Now at age 52, his fasting blood sugar was 150 (normal is 70-99). When I asked him if he knew that he had diabetes, he told me that there was controversy over whether or not fasting blood glucose was a legitimate test for diabetes, and the medical establishment was now considering the A1C measurement as more accurate. So John got an A1C test, which also showed he was diabetic.

Open Does Not Mean Vulnerable

By Judith A. Swack, Ph.D. • August 26, 2025
Copyright 2025 Judith A. Swack, Ph.D. Jane was dating two men at once and having trouble deciding who to choose. She listed all of John’s wonderful qualities and all of Steven’s wonderful qualities and remarked, “If I could just put the two of them together I’d have the perfect man.” When asked why she didn’t just date one man who had everything, she said she was keeping one man as a backup because she didn’t feel safe with either one of them. Puzzled, I asked, “Why would you date, let alone marry, anyone you didn’t feel safe with? Clearly, you’ll never marry either of these men.” Jane simply looked astonished. Love is a beautiful thing. We all need to love and be loved. Sadly, many of us have been hurt by the people we love and who are supposed to love us. When that happens, we no longer feel safe, and we shut down the ability to give and receive love. The tragedy is that we can no longer feel loved or experience ourselves as loving beings. We no longer experience the nourishing flow of warm golden buttery energy that uplifts the heart/soul, connects us all, and soothes all pain. And everyone else we could be loving is robbed. According to the dictionary, the word “vulnerable” means open to attack. When someone says, “I’m afraid to be vulnerable” he/she should be afraid to be vulnerable, but he/she should not be afraid to be emotionally open, emotionally present, or emotionally close. Opening to give and receive love should not make one vulnerable. So what to do about it? With HBLU we acknowledge the fear and heal the traumas, dysfunctional family system and cultural brainwashing patterns that caused it. This allows people to reach out with their hearts and share one of the greatest gifts in life. If you or anyone you know would like to open your heart to love, get happily married, or improve your marriage or other relationships, HBLU methodology can help you. If you would like to learn more or schedule an appointment, please call 781-444-6940 , email info@hblu.org , or go to www.hblu.org . Blessings, Judith
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Kerri Pearlman

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“Hi Judith, I wanted to let you know that I came to one of your seminars back in ’04 at The Post Club and it was a life changing event for myself and a friend of mine. Because of that seminar, I have a new job that I love, I realized that I was in the wrong relationship and now have a wonderful boyfriend who I plan to marry, and my friend met her husband that same night – he was a member of The Post Club! Thanks for everything!!”

Kathleen B & Bruce B

Business consultant & Retired Business Executive


It’s not too late to say ‘I love you’

“I, Kathleen started working with Judith Swack several years ago to address a recalcitrant bout of depression. Working with HBLU™, the depression lifted; I re-built a successful business, healed the relationship with my son, and more. Two divorces plus 10 years living alone had made me pessimistic about ever having a healthy relationship. Since everything else in my life had worked out so well with HBLU™, I was willing to take a new approach in that area. After one long-distance relationship -which didn’t work out– I joined e-harmony, an online dating service. There, I met Bruce, a widower who had been happily married. I quickly knew he was the type of man I wanted in my life.


Shortly after I, Bruce, met Kathleen, I knew I wanted to focus on developing a wonderful relationship with this remarkable woman.


When I saw how much HBLU™ had helped Kathleen, I went to see Judith to help me with depression, back problems, relationship issues, and creating the kind of retirement life I wanted, all of which I accomplished.


After seeing each other for only 15 months, and working through the challenges of normal life, we (Bruce age 74 and Kathleen age 66) have found happiness with each other and have committed to sharing a life together. “We are rejoicing together in recognizing the sweet spots in life – one of the great gifts of this stage of life, and we’re moving in together this October! Yes, we can even say we’re in love.”