Healthy Relationships

How HBLU Can Help

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You Can Have A Healthy Relationship Whether You Are Married Or Single


“Healthy relationships are happy relationships.” Judith A. Swack, Ph.D.


What is marriage?


At its best, it is a lifetime together, a partnership with someone you like, respect, and love. You share resources and use your differences to complement each other by sharing your strengths. This creates a synergy that stimulates continuous growth and evolution.


In a healthy marriage you:


  • Take care of each other, and do what you can to make each other happy. In other words it makes you feel happy when the other person is happy
  • Are nice to each other. Knowing your partner’s sore spots, you are gentle with them in those areas and you encourage them to get help if they need it
  • Have regular sex, and are willing to do whatever you can to preserve that form of closeness. This includes dealing with the natural physical problems of aging and age-related health problems
  • Are each better together than you are apart

Whether you’re single or in a long-term, committed relationship or marriage HBLU ™ can help you create the healthy, happy partnership you want by:


  • Discovering what type of relationship you are ready for.
  • Helping you release yourself from unhealthy relationships or relationships that aren’t going anywhere.
  • Clearing dysfunctional family patterns so that you don’t unconsciously reproduce them in your current relationship.
  • Healing trauma from divorce, death, betrayal, abandonment, etc. so that you can start fresh.Clearing distorted ideas, assumptions, limiting beliefs, and negative feelings about men, women, gender roles, relationships, marriage, etc.
  • Helping you understand and appreciate each other’s Enneagram personality type so that you can complement each other.
  • Teaching you state of the art communication skills.
  • Helping you discover the surprisingly simple ways to make each other feel loved.

With HBLU ™ you work together to create a unique partnership that is ideal for both of you. We’ve helped people in their twenties, we’ve helped people in their seventies. Whether it’s your first or your fifth, HBLU ™ helps people get and stay happily married.

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Sally and Frank came to me with the complaint, “He/she doesn’t love me.” When I asked Sally what Frank could do to make her feel loved, she said, “He needs to tell me I’m beautiful.” Further exploration revealed that she needed to hear this once a day. Although we tested other adjectives like gorgeous, fantastic, pretty, cute, adorable, fabulous, wonderful, terrific…no other adjective gave her the feeling of being loved. Frank agreed to do this one simple thing. In contrast, Frank needed someone to pet his head (anywhere on his head) about once a week to feel loved. Sally agreed to do this.

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Kerri Pearlman

The Post Club


Singles Find Love

“Hi Judith, I wanted to let you know that I came to one of your seminars back in ’04 at The Post Club and it was a life changing event for myself and a friend of mine. Because of that seminar, I have a new job that I love, I realized that I was in the wrong relationship and now have a wonderful boyfriend who I plan to marry, and my friend met her husband that same night – he was a member of The Post Club! Thanks for everything!!”

Kathleen B & Bruce B

Business consultant & Retired Business Executive


It’s not too late to say ‘I love you’

“I, Kathleen started working with Judith Swack several years ago to address a recalcitrant bout of depression. Working with HBLU™, the depression lifted; I re-built a successful business, healed the relationship with my son, and more. Two divorces plus 10 years living alone had made me pessimistic about ever having a healthy relationship. Since everything else in my life had worked out so well with HBLU™, I was willing to take a new approach in that area. After one long-distance relationship -which didn’t work out– I joined e-harmony, an online dating service. There, I met Bruce, a widower who had been happily married. I quickly knew he was the type of man I wanted in my life.


Shortly after I, Bruce, met Kathleen, I knew I wanted to focus on developing a wonderful relationship with this remarkable woman.


When I saw how much HBLU™ had helped Kathleen, I went to see Judith to help me with depression, back problems, relationship issues, and creating the kind of retirement life I wanted, all of which I accomplished.


After seeing each other for only 15 months, and working through the challenges of normal life, we (Bruce age 74 and Kathleen age 66) have found happiness with each other and have committed to sharing a life together. “We are rejoicing together in recognizing the sweet spots in life – one of the great gifts of this stage of life, and we’re moving in together this October! Yes, we can even say we’re in love.”

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