The Reluctant Millionaires

Judith A. Swack Ph.D. • November 29, 2023

That’s obvious you say. So what’s the big deal? Who even wants to be competent at everything? The logical answer is to decide what areas of competence are important to you, and if you’re not good in those areas, take a class, learn a skill, read a book, have somebody teach you how to do it, hire or marry someone with that skill. And where you are incompetent but don’t want to or can’t do anything about it, accept it gracefully.

A keynote speaker describing the Make Mine a $Million Busines program, at the March 2007 Women’s Congress in Boston, mentioned that women are afraid to make a million dollars. To get around that objection, they tell women that it would be their business that would make a million dollars, not them personally.


Indeed, I discovered that many women, but no men, had unconscious self-sabotage on the subject of making a million dollar salary. As one woman put it, “I can make money for other people’s businesses, but I can’t make money for myself.” So began the campaign to clear all my clients of interference to making a million dollar salary.


Of the many patterns that cause unconscious self sabotage on this issue, the most dangerous pattern we found is a toxic belief system (TBS) called the Betrayal TBS. A TBS is a brainwashing pattern that runs through families, whole societies and cultures. The Betrayal TBS prevents people from making a good living doing their soul work.


The main characters are the rich provider, dependant spouse, spoiled brat, and helpless child. Although I’ve seen both men and women play all the roles, and everyone in this story feels betrayed. In the Betrayal TBS, most world cultures expect the man be the rich provider and the woman the dependant spouse. A woman marries a man expecting him to support her and the family.


Sometimes she had a profession that she gave up when she got married, or continues to work in a job or professional career, but makes less money than the man. She may be raising children and feel entitled to be supported financially, but in this story her husband doesn’t consider what she does work because it doesn’t bring in any money.


In some cases, the Betrayal pattern only shows itself when the woman quits her job (often at the suggestion of her husband.) After just a few months he starts having an affair or becomes abusive and calls her a parasite.


In the Betrayal TBS husband and wife do not have a happy, healthy relationship of equals. The typical unconscious message to the dependants (wife and children) is to:


Ignore betrayal, ignore intuition, ignore reality, etc., and give up your soul, life, self, self-respect, health, future, etc., and stay with an abusive, narcissistic, selfish, alcoholic, gambling, cheating tyrant/asshole/jerk, and serve him by making him God, supporting/stroking his ego, etc., because that’s what my ancestors/parents/mother did, and because I’m weak and can’t take care of myself, etc., and if I disobey the consequences are that I’ll be thrown out on the street and die of starvation, be rejected, unloved, and alone forever, get sick and die, etc., and the system will punish me by condemning me to a life of self-hate, grief, remorse and regret, guilt, loneliness, etc., condemning me to a life of poverty by never allowing me to enjoy the abundance I do have or by never allowing me to make good money in my career, etc., turning my children against me, killing me, my children, or loved ones, etc., but if I obey, I will get a life of luxury, ease, security, stability, happiness, fulfillment, love, status, power, perfect health, etc. and a rich provider.



Fortunately, with HBLU ™ it is easy to clear this pattern from the consciousmind, unconscious mind, body, and soul in just a few sessions. When we cleared this pattern, my clients (both men and women) got better jobs, made more money, and where necessary, left abusive relationships!


Success Stories
After her divorce, Carol struggled for many years to make an adequate income and get grant funding for her medical research lab. Well respected in her field, she had always been able to get small grants, but now, she had the opportunity to apply for a really large grant. Suddenly she developed writer’s block. After clearing the Betrayal TBS, she wrote the grant, sent it in ahead of the deadline, and got funded! I know the whole world will be better for her contribution.


In her 20’s Elaine made a $250,000 salary as a financial analyst. When she got married, she quit her job and had 3 children. She came for HBLU treatment for extreme fatigue and repeated respiratory infections. Shortly after she started treatment she discovered her husband’s affair. After clearing the Betrayal TBS, she decided to divorce her husband, at which point he promptly lost his job. Instead of waiting for him to get a new job so they could finalize the divorce arrangements, she got a new job with a financial institution whose mission matched hers. She feels energetic and happy. She says, “I remember who I am.” My guess is she’ll be running the company in the next 5 years.


What is HBLU ™ ?
HBLU ™is an innovative, rapid, and powerful new mind/body/spirit healing methodology developed by Judith A. Swack, Ph.D., a Biochemist/Immunologist, Master NLP Practitioner, Mind/Body Healer, and leader in the field of Energy Psychology. HBLUTM integrates biomedical science, psychology, hypnosis, Neuro Linguistic Programming, applied kinesiology, and other energy psychology techniques with original research on the structure of complex damage patterns. HBLUTM is so effective because:


  1. The client’s deepest wisdom guides the healing,
  2. It has menus of well characterized patterns and effective healing techniques,
  3. It clears blocks to success at the conscious, unconscious, body, and soul levels.


HBLU ™ helps people rapidly achieve the results they want to live full, happy, healthy, and satisfying lives. Maybe it can help you, too.

Dr. Swack and her associates work with people in person or by phone. Healing from the Body Level Up ™, Inc. is located in Needham, MA. Call 781-444-6940 to book an appointment, order a free information package, and order audio and videotapes.


Boston Women’s Journal February/March 2008


By Copyright 2025 Judith A. Swack, Ph.D. January 31, 2025
James ’s brother, Samuel , sustained severe traumatic brain injury from a car accident. He spent the year going to many doctors for treatment, but could barely function. Samuel complained that not only did standard medical care not help him, but the doctors ignored and mistreated him. Whenever James suggested any complementary therapies, such as acupuncture, chiropractic, or HBLU, Samuel immediately came up with excuses as to why going for that kind of treatment was impossible. (Notice that he didn’t claim that that kind of treatment wouldn’t work. He just made it impossible to get there.) James said, “Even though I feel really guilty about it, I’ve stopped trying to help him because he makes everything impossible.” Monica ’s 25-year-old son, Ed , suffers from such severe debilitating Crohn’s disease that he couldn’t finish high school, can’t work, can’t leave the house, and can barely leave his room. Traditional medical care and medication is not helping. Monica and her husband bought him a dog thinking that would cheer him up, but Ed does not interact with it. Monica has suggested and made appointments for many complementary therapies such as nutrition, naturopathy, family therapy, and HBLU, but Ed refuses to go to these appointments. Monica experiences guilt and deep sorrow that her son is so ill, and she and her husband haven’t been able to help him. Valerie ’s partner, Nancy , is 200 pounds overweight, suffers from ADD and severe anxiety, and hates her job. Nancy had been on medication for the ADD and anxiety, but when her psychiatrist retired, never attempted to find another provider and let her medication lapse. When Valerie suggested that Nancy find new doctors and get back on medication to help her mental function and treatment for overweight, Nancy refused to make any follow-up phone calls or emails. Although they had gotten engaged in the Spring, by Fall, Valerie had asked for the ring back. Valerie said, “I don’t think I can live with her if she refuses to take care of herself and won’t let me help her.” What do James, Monica, and Valerie all have in common? They feel deep sorrow, guilt, and frustration that they can’t help someone they care about deeply. But the people who are suffering are also trapped in a pattern that continues to cause them suffering. Both the impotent helpers and the perpetual sufferers are trapped in a seducer strategy called, “I’m impossible.” What is a Seduction Pattern? Seduction patterns are some of the most energy draining, perverse, and frustrating patterns a person can experience. People with seduction patterns get tricked into doing things they don’t want to do. They are unable to leave bad relationships, jobs, family, or other upsetting situations.
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It’s that time again, where I get to shout out another amazing woman. Dr. Judith Swack has changed my life! In fact she has changed our family’s life. I found her in summer of 2023 . There was so much unhealed shit and my body was paying for it. I am 46 years old, and I have been in therapy on and off since I was 13. I’ve had some lovely therapists. I’m also a therapist myself. And I can honestly, wholeheartedly say, NOTHING has ever helped with lasting changes as much as Judith. She’s one of the smartest women I’ve ever met - she’s a neuroscientist + an energy healer. And the work she does - what we do in session - cannot even really explain it. It’s weird as f*ck. And it works!! In the past little over a year, I have managed to change a couple of behaviors I have not been able to change in 20 years. no exaggeration, and not for lack of trying. One of my 11 year old sons was paralyzed by fear of spiders - had a phobia, happened to be with me one day when I had an appointment and was going to wait in the waiting room, she said he could come in even though she doesn’t work with kids. I kid you not, she fixed that sh*t. In one session. He still doesn’t like spiders, but he isn’t frozen in fear anymore - he can get a tissue and pick it up and move on. This is unbelievable. And remember last week when I Saturday spotlighted my financial coach and how my husband’s feeling lonely in that part of our marriage is now getting resolved? Well, before I reached out to my financial coach to begin with, my husband and I had a joint session with Dr. Swack, where she helped heal a piece of our relationship which we’ve been stuck, going in circles for years! That clearing gave me the energy and thought to reach out for financial coaching to begin with… And if you need any convincing that this is the person for healing from trauma, I invite you to reach out and speak with my husband himself…. I % believe in all this energy healing etc, but he is a very logical, rational, no bullshit guy. He doesn’t do therapy. Talk therapy never worked for him, and he thinks it’s a complete waste. And I couldn’t explain this to him - how this is different or what it is. Nor did I try. I didn’t even ever suggest he should go… But when he saw our son get cured of the arachnophobia, and our son is very similar to him, no bullshit, rational, logical, and he said it worked, and we saw it worked he decided to try it… He decided to give it sessions… I think to prove to both of us it was all bullshit. He came home from the first session livid. But decided he would go back. He also came back from the second session angry, and told me all about how he yelled at Dr. Swack and told her it was bullshit… AND how she didn’t give a f*ck what he thought …”it doesn’t matter if you believe it or think it’s bullshit, I’m not talking to your rational mind, I’m talking to your subconscious” she’s told him numerous times… And suffice to say, he’s been about 9x now, and he too, is operating fundamentally differently. Our marriage is operating fundamentally differently. Traumas and patterns we have both carried and acted upon for years seem to be being dissolved. It’s really wild. If you are seeking a trauma healer or healing for anything, I can’t recommend Dr. Swack higher. I once asked Dr. Swack how to explain what she does to people, and she said “tell them I work with your subconscious”. I don’t think that really explains it fully… or maybe it does… either way it’s amazing. S.C. LICSW
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