Everyone's Incompetent at Something

Judith A. Swack Ph.D. • Nov 29, 2023

That’s obvious you say. So what’s the big deal? Who even wants to be competent at everything? The logical answer is to decide what areas of competence are important to you, and if you’re not good in those areas, take a class, learn a skill, read a book, have somebody teach you how to do it, hire or marry someone with that skill. And where you are incompetent but don’t want to or can’t do anything about it, accept it gracefully.

The problems come when:
people who are competent believe they are incompetent and hold back on fully contributing what they have to offer to the world, or people who are incompetent are too ashamed and afraid to admit it and avoid learning the skills they need, thus stagnating in their lives, or overcompensate (the superwoman complex) by trying to do it all (sometimes to the point of burnout), and not very well at that. When people come for HBLU™ therapy the goal is to clear the negative programming around competence in order to bring out their best gifts so they can fully contribute what they have to offer and feel fulfilled in their lives.


Success Stories
Jeanette was a very competent computer hardware engineer. She always wanted to be a software guru, but felt incompetent in that area. Although she had a lot of experience programming in one kind of computer language, she felt incompetent about transferring that knowledge to other computer languages. So she held herself back, and stayed in a job where she was bored. After clearing her blocks about competence in our HBLU ™ sessions, she realized that her strong suit was that she is a quick learner and thus very versatile. Since all computer languages have certain similarities, she could learn and use new languages quickly. At her next job interview, she emphasized these points, and they hired her. She’s been doing software design engineering ever since. In the last 10 years, she has worked for three companies, programmed in several computer languages, and finally achieved her goal of being a software guru.


I met Sandy at a party. She confided that she was dating a wonderful man who asked her to marry and have a family with him. She told me that although she loved him, and he would make a wonderful husband and father, she had decided to break up with him immediately because she could not read or spell well. She was afraid that he would discover this after they had children and divorce her when he found that she couldn’t read bedtime stories. I urged her not to do anything rash, and to see me immediately. In our HBLU session I taught her the NLP strategy for spelling using the visual part of her brain. She was able to spell immediately. I then recommended she get a reading tutor to help her learn and add more words to her memory. She did, and learned to read very well. She married her wonderful man and over the years had three children to whom she read bedtime stories.


Connie is a busy dentist. While working for several months on the goal of building her business and running it in a more organized way, she came in for one of our sessions complaining of muscle soreness throughout her whole body. She explained that she had just run a marathon. “I didn’t know you were a runner,” I remarked. “Well, actually, I’m not,” she replied. “You have to really train to run a marathon. Did you train for this?” I asked. “Not enough,” she replied. “Why did you do it,” I asked. “My friends were all running this marathon and asked me to join them, so I did,” she said. During the HBLU ™ healing session, we found that she was afraid to admit that she was incompetent at anything and felt that she had to be all things to all people. Not only did this pattern result in her physical overexertion, it also prevented her from being organized and using her staff more efficiently at work. After we cleared this pattern, I asked what she would have said to her friends, now. She replied, “I would have felt perfectly comfortable laughing off their invitation and thanking them for thinking of me.” After our session, she returned to her practice with a better understanding of real world limitations, and began to make the necessary changes in staff utilization.


What is HBLU ™ ?
HBLU ™ is an innovative, rapid, and powerful new mind/body/spirit healing methodology developed by Judith A. Swack, Ph.D., a Biochemist/Immunologist, Master NLP Practitioner, Mind/Body Healer, and leader in the field of Energy Psychology. HBLUTM integrates biomedical science, psychology, hypnosis, Neuro Linguistic Programming, applied kinesiology, and other energy psychology techniques with original research on the structure of complex damage patterns. HBLU ™ is so effective because:


  1. The client’s deepest wisdom guides the healing,
  2. It has menus of well characterized patterns and effective healing techniques,
  3. It clears blocks to success at the conscious, unconscious, body, and soul levels.


HBLU ™ helps people rapidly achieve the results they want to live full, happy, healthy, and satisfying lives. Maybe it can help you, too.

Dr. Swack and her associates work with people in person or by phone. Healing from the Body Level Up ™, Inc. is located in Needham, MA. Call 781-444-6940 to book an appointment, order a free information package, and order audio and videotapes.


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